Ah, the blessing of friendship. It's great isn't it. That you can share the same values, morals, ideas, music, and a variety of other interests together. Kinda like you met yourself. You develop best friends, friends, and aquaintences. And in between all, you better watch your back. It's harsh to say, but every category holds a secret. You have to make sure that your friends don't spill on you. But I have to tell you, if friends are willing to sell you out or talk shit, then they are nothing to you. It is the worst when someone you thought was your friend, someone you love and care about, is the one starting all this nonsense about you. We all had that friend. And we cut them free. It's your turn now...Because lies and deceit is not friendship. It's hate.
Rumors and bitchiness is not the only thing facing friendship. A big problem that came to my attention by a friend is that sometimes friends make that promise in the beginning of their blossoming friendship and repeatedly tell each other that they will always be there for one another. But then, when it comes down to it, your darkest days, when you need that friend, isn't there. How are you supposed to function? I mean sometimes I get that people are busy with school and work but isn't there time? Time in between? If I just told you I needed help, would you seriously not offer me it? Are you that busy that you can't listen to me? Really?
What has it all come to nowadays? We can't even be there for each other is our own pain and bad days. We can even listen to each other? Friendship is about caring. It's about listening to one another just because you need that shoulder to cry on. If you're really facing this problem, my advice is, reach out and tell your friend or friends how you are feeling. If you're hurt because their lack of listening, then don't sit down and be mopey. Get up, brighten your day, and talk about it. What good is keeping it in? Another thing, if your sad about your friends doing such things to you, keeping it in won't help them to improve it. It's all about communication lovelies.
You know, a friend once said, and I couldn't agree more with them one hundred and ten percent. This friend has taught me so much about myself and situations. This friend has hurt along with me. This friend, is a friend. Anyways, she bluntly and very honestly said, "Don't pretend to give a fuck, when you really don't." No need to talk about it. It has its own message.
But don't get me wrong...All friendship isn't bad. In fact, I have some of the most spectacular friends anyone could ask for. I have developed into who I am today because of all these people. I have called each person that I could trust and they listened. Yeah, they were there when others won't. They helped me overcome it. I cannot go on about the constant gratitude I have for each and every one of you. I feel like when I am in front of my friends, I can be me. I can actually be who I am. Isn't that what it's all about? Living your life the way you want it? And people that help you understand the true meaning of that, that's friendship.
Real friendship is love. Find that love. Or let it find you.
--daviduh.
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