YouDon'tReallyKnowHowIFeel,

Have you ever had a friend who told you they loved something about you, but then moments later you find them talking about how it irritates them? I've had them a lot. I fucking hate the words: irritating, annoying, aggravating, and idiot. When you're talking to a friend, avoid those words. If you really have a problem, address it when you are ready and capable of speaking with meaning (be sober). Using these words not only pisses the person off, but it just makes you look selfish, and mean.

Sometimes I feel as if friends whom you are comfortable around fall into this place that they can say whatever to you and it will be okay. That's wrong because no matter what, there is always this place of "No Zone." In this place, you have a line of limits that no one can pass. Your past experiences determine this place because you know how you feel and you know what hurts you, or makes you feel anything less than you. Think about how many times you've been mad at a family member who has said something to put you in a mood. Even though you are attached to them by blood and you love them unconditionally, their words STILL hurt. The same goes for a friend, and even more, when with a friend you confide a lot more sometimes than family. If all that you tell your friends ends up blowing up in your face, is that really fair?

Sometimes I get in these moods where I just feel like no one deserves friendship. No one is ever truly true or trustworthy. That everyone hurts one another, and how the fuck do you go from there?

You've got to remember that you NEED people in your life. This has been proven in cases that you need to make encounters with people. Imagine how boring your life would be without outside contact. At times, depression hits and people WILL hurt you. All you can really do is tell them to try not to cross your "No Zone" but if they do, you can only forgive. Because if you have history with this person and you have let them in, there is no way they can be gone, there will always be a piece of them in your heart. Sounds cliché, I know but life is so much better when you don't dwell on the hurt. Let it out and move on.

That's what real friendship is about. Acceptance and Forgiveness. Carry those three words with you and always remember, there is always someone who knows how you really feel.

--daviduh.